Advice for 50-Somethings

Four Practices for Free-Living and Mind-Blowing Success

By Martha Moore

Published 6/18/2017 in aquarianonline.com

I remember the good old days when I was 25 years old, and my biggest concern about the future was that I would be successful and living my dream life by the time I turned 50. I had such grand visions then! And while my life isn’t miserable now that I’m in my 50s, it certainly isn’t what I thought it would be when I envisioned it at age 25.

It’s funny how our dreams start to morph as we get older. How we discover that our “success” and “dream life” are not what we thought they would be. Somehow along the way from age 25 to 50, responsibilities, routines, and obligations, start to take over our lives. For many of us, our dreams become smaller, our definition of success is minimized, and we become content to satisfice with what we’ve got.

So, what happens along the way? How does the success and dream life that we see in our 20s turn out to look like this? Why do we spend so much of our time doing what we believe we “should” be doing rather than what we really want to be doing?

The love that parents feel towards their children is indescribable and something that they would never, ever want to do without. I’ve seen clients completely give up their own dreams to give their children everything: from the constant travel around the country for sports weekends which completely takes over their lives both in time and financial responsibilities, to the hectic daily schedule that takes over and becomes the norm for years.

While children should have these opportunities, when it comes to interfering with the parents being able to live their own lives and follow their own dreams as well, what kind of example does this give the child? What does it lead children to believe is waiting for them when they reach adulthood? Will they also be expected to give up their dreams to do the same things for their children? …read more